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Choosing Partners
Because sexuality has such a powerful influence on the psyche and behavior, it is essential to find healthy partners and to create healthy partnerships - those that balance what we can get from it with the effect our energy can have on others. Here are some guidelines for applying the golden rule ('do unto others') and keeping the process sacred:
- How do I effect my partners? Ask yourself if your presence in this person's life would be a good thing. No one can predict the future, but you can at least check in with your conscience before crossing commitment boundaries. If you can find common ground on each of your Life Purposes, you will be able to share valuable time no matter what the outcome.
- Morning after: After a whole bunch of movies in the 1970s and 80s, being able to live with what you had done the night before almost seemed like it was too much to ask. The way you choose to treat another person is the way you are treating yourself - it is just a matter of time before it comes back.
- Sexual fantasy: Fantasy can be a healthy way of processing some of your internal issues before you try to act it out with anyone else and cause potential harm. As with all fantasy or reflection, this option depends on your ability to know when to act - fantasy can cause harm if it cuts you off from real interaction - use your conscience as a guide.
- Spiritual connection: God's agreement with man (Free Will) involves not telling us what to do, particularly about our creative choices. Yet there is a big difference between being free to choose and stubbornly ignoring input. If you are seeking to do the right thing, you will find guidance at every step of the way. My rule of thumb is the more important a decision, the more I make an effort to get whatever information I can and to check in with my conscience. Various tools for connecting with this information are discussed throughout this site: active meditation, prayer, discussion with friends, television channel surfing (it's amazing how you can get very personal messages in moments of crisis if you are open), a walk in nature - any thing that will support your ability to think clearly. And of course, when possible, discussion with those involved is an essential step to making good decisions - both giving them an opportunity to pleasantly surprise you and setting a high standard for communication right from the beginning.